Best friends before dating
” Take a long look in the mirror and ask, “Is that the person I am being right now?
” If the answer to those questions is no, then think about performing a random act of kindness in your relationship.
In contrast, not satisfying a partner's needs may keep him or her passionately pursuing you and trying to please you, but will eventually lead to dislike, dissatisfaction and animosity.
There must be a balance between the likability and desirability factors.
I’m sure you’ve wondered if being friends first is really the best path to a lasting relationship.
The overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is actually quite significant.
In contrast, being aloof and challenging made a person more attractive and desirable, but did not make them likeable.
Satisfying your partner's needs or wants increases how much he or she likes you and how friendly he or she feels toward you — but it can also reduce his or her desire to chase you for more.
When you already have a history of friendship, of doing favors for each other just because you want to, you can easily consciously pull back a little bit to make room for some of that passion and desire to grow.
Think about how you are with your friends: You tell each other everything.